I for long wanted to write on intricate nature
fairer sex. But the limitation of a man in unfurling the complex
layers of women psychology and the sheer magnanimity of the canvas
has always restricted me from doing so. Beside I really was afraid of my
male ego overtaking me from portraying an unbiased view of how women might
think. I found it most difficult for two reasons. Firstly, I didn’t know what
aspect I will write on – women’s thought process, their nature or their wishes
- for there is so much to write on. Secondly, I know for sure whatever I will
write, will never be conclusive and this thought will never let me finish
writing it.
Nevertheless, my knack for keeping a low
profile affair with social blogging has given me this liberty to excuse myself
for not doing justice to something quite profound. And taking a cue and courage
from this fact I am trying to jot down my observations, readings, experiences,
feelings and memories which are intertwined in my heart and mind over year’s
interaction with women in many forms.
Long ago I have read an interesting piece on
dilemma of a woman about something. To my amazement it turn out that it was
written by a man in first person narrative which never let a reader feel that
the writer, being a man, is biased in his views. While writing this post, I
decided to write it in a first person narrative than presenting a third person
view to be able to feel free to say what I had to say by putting me in
narrator’s shoe. Here it goes!
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I am a woman and I have to say something to you
guys who claim that we are difficult to understand and please. My views may
not be a universal truth but this is generally the case baring a few
exceptions.
Are we really so complex to understand? Yes and
No. Our mood may be swinging swiftly at times but we are not very tough to
please. We are understandable – some easily, some with a little patience. But
the point is we want to be understood. Even though we know men will never
understand us. While we are easy to upset, we are easy to cheer as well. We
like expensive gift but we will cherish every little gifts guys give us on
small occasions. We will fancy costly champagne on a 5 star but will even love
a tea/coffee in rain with you.
We love surprises. Though never give us a hint
about it. If you have to surprise us do it quietly for we like it but can’t
wait for it if we get a clue. We may be more intellectual and intelligent than
the men we like/love, but we will still be submissive to him for we can let go
our ego while men can’t. We will laugh at silliest jokes and ignore the sarcasm
men throw at times. We pamper your ego because we think of you as part of us.
We accept your shortcoming and ignore stupid acts you guys do at time.
If one thing you know about us, it has to be –
we love shopping. This is one point where we are very predictable. But you
forget the fact that we are like this universally. I know it gets quite
demanding for you guys to company us in malls but imagine the long hours we
wait for you when you stay late in office or hanging out with your bunch of
friends in a club. At least you can be a little appreciative by showing some
patience while we shop if you can’t show any enthusiasm.
Yes, we do overthink things most of the times.
But that’s only because we are careful in our acts and we think of consequences
as well. And we do get annoyed if you keep on doing or saying something we
don’t like. Yes, we do get critical and complaining but we expect you to take
responsibility and accountability at times. Do not fight back each time.
If you take care of little things it means a
lot to us. We will remember what you said on an occasion but we also remember
what you said when you were angry. Be careful because we may bring that when
you have least expected for we remember what we had to or want to. Say things
only if you mean them for we hate liars. We will try to understand and may
accept you as well with your shortcomings if you are honest with us. Don’t over
promise to us or pretend to be someone who you are not. Just be yourselves.
Do not try to change us just because we do that
to you guys before marriage. We do that so we can better adjust with you and
make you sensitive about few things in life which are beyond the realm of your
bachelor life. You do feel proud when people compliment you for us, but you
start getting possessive when people compliment us. You feel great when your
home look clean and presentable but you have your own reservations when we
ask you to change your habits.
We don’t like desperate men – who call/text us
every now and then. We like men who have got their acts together. We want you
to be smart and intellectual. We want you to have your own identity so that we
feel protected and secured with you. We don’t like short tempered guys who are
over possessives.
We like to talk- a lot! But that doesn’t mean
you should give your advice on every little thing. We like to be heard. You are
free to give your opinion but please don’t insists us to do or react the way
you guys use to.
Just like guys we get depressed too. And we
want you to be there and be supportive. We search comfort in your humorous talk
and your arms but arrogance turn us off. We like a little teasing and flirting
if you are at ease with you. But don’t overdo it specially to show off in front
of others.
Lastly, we like to be cared and handled in a
gracious way. However strong or dominating we may appear or pretend, deep down
inside we need a person to trust and fall back on.
So guys, we are slight difficult to understand
but not impossible.
Cheers!
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PS: In case you are wondering, I am not gay J
